Prop H8te


Californians voted to amend the state constitution to take away civil rights.

We were married on 10/31/08. Proponents of Prop 8 are seeking annulments for all 17,000+ same-sex marriages that have happened since the state supreme court declared denying these basic civil rights unconstitutional.

There are 3-4 million provisional ballots that still need to be counted. Last I heard, the gap between Yes and No is only 500,000. We’ll know more on 11/13.

As of today, cities in California will stop issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples.

24 Responses to “Prop H8te”

  1. Cece Says:

    I think the whole thing is BS. Move here to MA!

    But onto other news…. YOU GOT MARREID! Hurrah! Congrats!

  2. Susan Says:

    This whole things seems really simple to me–if you’re against same-sex marriages, then don’t marry someone of your same sex. Why do people think they have even the tiniest bit of right to tell other people who they can and cannot marry? Why do they care?

    I know this doesn’t help right now, but this country just put a biracial man in the White House. There is hope for the future.

    In the meantime, congratulations! You are such a cute couple.

  3. costumechick Says:

    Prop H8te makes my heart ache, literally, for all my gay and lesbian friends. Please know that there a lot of people pulling for you and your marriage.

  4. Monet Says:

    Congrats on getting to marry the person that you love! That really is the most exciting thing ever.

    But, man, I’m so sorry to hear about this. It really stinks! I was really hoping that everyone would vote NO on Prop 8!

    I really wish that I lived in CA so that I could have voted and been out there campaigning against Prop 8 as I was for Obama.

  5. janet Says:

    I’m a Californian and I voted No on this proposition. I am floored to see it so near to passing. I will continue to hope.

    Congratulations on your marriage!

  6. Dave Says:

    WTF? How can they stop issuing licenses before the votes are even finished being counted and any legal or legislative action taken? And how can they annul marriages that were performed legally as the law stood at that time? That’s like repealing capital punishment and saying, “Oh, wait a minute, dude, come back.”

    Congratulations on the nuptuals! Please don’t let all this other stuff detract from the joy you find with each other.

  7. Liz Says:

    No one is truly free unless we all have the right to the same freedoms. I’m angry that those who voted to support this proposition failed to realize that.

    I hope that the final count shows that I can still have faith in humanity.

    Congratulations on your marriage!

  8. Juanita Says:

    I can’t say “fuck you” loud and often enough after this travesty.
    It’s blatant, and fear based (though their simple fear of “teh gays” isn’t enough to make it a constitutional issue so lets use the kids instead!!).
    I’m disappointed in my state. We fought hard, but it just means we fight harder.

  9. Jessy Says:

    I’m chiming in with the congratulations. I’ve got my fingers crossed it doesn’t pass.
    Hugs to you and yours.

  10. heidi Says:

    I can’t believe it will pass…………I just can’t! I’m Californian and I am unfortunate enough to work with some people that voted YES simply because they were afraid of teachers telling their little boys to chose a man or a woman to marry! I spent weeks trying to explain it so they could understand that a bedtime story about Uncle Phil and his “friend” getting married DOESN’T MAKE/TURN someone gay!…….LIKE IT’S A MENU CHOICE AT OLIVE GARDEN!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE AND IT IS YOUR OWN PERSONAL BUSINESS AND RIGHT TO BE AN INDIVIDUAL IN THE WAY THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! who are these people who don’t understand that just as reading a story wouldn’t make THEM gay, why would it make their children gay……but MOST IMPORTANTLY who are these people who would NOT ACCEPT their own children or be AFRAID of their own children should they be gay? Why do people want there to be a sizable part of the population languishing in silent/private AGONY with feelings they are being WRONGLY TOLD ARE BAD!!!!!!!!!!! As a parent I would ONLY WANT MY SON TO BE HAPPY…………how could I want ANYTHING else? This is truly a perverse world when one person thinks they can dictate who another person can love………..DID THEY FORGET WHAT LOVE MEANS?????? OH I AM SICK ABOUT THIS……….its such a gross twist of goodness that people were FRIGHTENED into doing the wrong thing!

  11. Darcy Says:

    I am praying that things shake out so that your marriage is as legal as it is wonderful. You are a beautiful couple, and I wish you both every happiness, especially the basic human right of having your relationship condoned by the state. I was furious when something similar passed here in Ohio. Still hoping for a good outcome for all our states, for our entire country to climb out of the ooze of hate and join the rest of the free-thinking world.

  12. GeekKnitter Says:

    My heart goes out to you.

  13. Celia Says:

    You are married! That’s the good news. Woohoo!

    But, damn, I am very disappointed in California. How could we vote so solidly for Obama and then turn around and vote for discrimination? I simply do not understand.

  14. stariel Says:

    Congrats again, and of course Prop 8 is totally ridiculous.

    At least if they’re going to ban gay marriage they should let me evaluate all straight marriages and veto the ones that are stupid. 😉

  15. danielle Says:

    hopefully the provisional ballots will correct such an awful wrong. i’m sorry i don’t live in california anymore, i could’ve voted too. i will keep my fingers crossed and project good thoughts.

    … i guess i overestimate people. it’s shocking that there could still be so many discriminatory people out there in the world.

  16. Celia/Nartian Says:


    But I swear I do not understand the mindset of Californians who will vote for Obama but will also vote to deny others their basic rights. Yeah, I’ve lived here for years, but I grew up somewhere else and went to a high school across the street from Obama’s, so I will never consider myself a true Californian. It’s a pity we still have a long way to go equal protection for all of us.

    Here’s hoping the lawsuit will strike down this Prop as well.

  17. bockstark.knits Says:

    I’m still holding out for the absentee ballot count!

  18. aija Says:

    I am hoping for a turn with the absentees too… I was one! 🙂

    Congrats again!

  19. Angela Says:

    Congratulations on your marriage. I’ll keep my fingers crossed about the recount.

  20. Misknits Says:

    I’ll be hoping for good news for you on the 13th!

  21. Emma in France Says:

    Llongfarchiadau! (Welsh for Congratulations.)

    I’m late reading this post but I really, really hope that the final count means that Prop 8 fails. If it doesn’t then I hope that the ensuing lawsuits to repeal it will succeed. How can anyone justify denying such a basic right to anyone who wants make a public declaration of their love and commitment?

  22. Judy G. Says:

    I’ve just dropped in for the first time from Knitterguy (who probably doesn’t even know he’s on my list!), and I’d like to congratulate you on your recent wedding. I am in Canada, where, wonder of wonders, we appear to be more progressive than California (at least parts of the country are). I am incredulous that Prop 8 was passed, and hope that it can be overturned. The irony of electing Obama and then turning around and rescinding this right is not lost on me. Your other commenters have covered the topic so well, but I wanted to get my two cents’ worth in.

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  24. Cora Says:

    Wow, I was floored when that got passed! I am in the process of removing my name from the Mormon Church membership because of what the church sanctioned opposition was done in California.

    This is wrong on so many levels. I am fortunate because in Canada, same sex marriage is legal. I am currently married to a wonderful man, however I would hope that I could marry if my partner happened to be a woman. The government needs to stay out of citizens bedrooms.

    Congratulations on your marriage. My hubby and I recently celebrated some friends of ours marriage. I found your blog through Knitty Gritty and plan to follow it more closely.

    Take care,